i used to live with someone too and when they left the house was just a trap for all the memories. and it was a torture chamber for me for a long time.

i think you are caught between letting go of the past and wanting to move on. and it is difficult. and you are right, being with someone new when you haven’t really gotten over your ex can be a strain on any new relationships.

i think that it is perfectly fine to let yourself cry. feel the hurt and really let it out. then, pack everything up (or get a friend to help you) and put every reminder into a box and store it away. the feelings won’t go away instantly but at least you are not reminded every second. allow yourself to grief. then pull yourself together, take a deep breath and try to pick up the pieces from there.

i have achieved a lot of closure through my blog. anger, sadness, everything just let out into cyberspace. you can do that too. and judging from all the nice things everyone has said here, you know that you have a great support system in place here.

take care.

it is really bad and suffer. i tried to forget him, but finally i know that, time is taken for forget a person…

as kevin said, life must go on. you must take a good care of yourself and your new love.

life is great! cheers up!!!

regards, dandor.